When Death Is Near

Teens and “Tweens” are always dealing with zig-zagging emotions. The beloved pet may have offered friendship when all other relationships were changing.

The loss of a pet to this age group can be particularly hard.  The Pet may have been a source of unconditional love and companionship during childhood. Many young people look at their pet as an anchor of childhood; always loving, forgiving and loyal.

Family members need to give approval for tears, sadness and acknowledge that it may take quite a bit of time for the stages of grief to pass.Peer acceptance of expressing feelings can make the transition easier.  If the friends downplay the sorrow, the adolescent may bury the hurt feelings and questions in his heart, and not feel safe sharing them.

Remember this is the time in life when young adults are trying to find their own true feelings and discover who and what they are as individuals.  They may want your understanding, guidance and reassurance, but may use conflict to deflect the opportunities to share.

In our family, we have found the best conversations take place late at night, when the lights are dim and there is pizza to share.  Teens and young adults open up their sore places in their hearts when you aren’t eye-ball to eye-ball and busy with a million other things.

I encourage you to take the time in a relaxed setting to connect with your children about how to deal with the loss of their pet.  How this is handled now, will remain with them for the rest of their life and will have an influence on how they approach death of other loved ones later in life.

Please check out my latest book “I Lost My Best Friend Today – Healing from Loss of a Pet” You will be so glad you did.  It contains a collection of stories and photos of others who have lost their pets.

http://www.Deathofmypet.com

In support,

Judy Helm Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and motivational speaker

I love this quote from Elizabeth Barrett Browning–”No man can be called friendless when he has God and the companionship of good books.”

There is nothing better than a book you become so involved with that the characters seem real to you.  A book you can’t put down. A book that changes your life. A book that you want to share with others. A book that you feel was written just for you.

As I have worked on the book “I Lost My Best Friend Today – Healing From the Loss of a Beloved Pet” I have found many poems, personal essays, articles and other readings that have resonated with me. They came just when I needed them most.

The other day I found Mem Fox’s memoir in the free box at the library. I was ecstatic. The title of “Dear Mem Fox, I Have Read All Your Books Even The Pathetic Ones” pretty much gives you a hint of the contents.  In this wonderful book written by the internationally acclaimed creator of “Possum Magic”, “Koala Lou”, and of course our families favorite childrens (and adults) read aloud book; “Wilfred Gordon McDonald Partridge“

When you need a friend or just the right words, look around and you will find a book that will be just what you need.

When going through a period of grief and loss, I found just the right words. Perhaps it will resonate with you.

Visit http://www.DoNotWeep.com This is a wonderful collection of literature dealing with loss and death. If you choose to order it, you will be glad you did. I certainly was.

(c) Judy H. Wright http://www.ArtichokePress.com You have permission to reprint this article as long as you keep the content and contact information intact. Thank You.