As most of you know, I am a family educator and coach and work with families just like yours and mine all over the place.  One of the most reoccurring themes is anger.  How it works, how to manage it, where it comes from and what to do when it is directed at you.

People who have undergone a trauma or are in the middle of a stressful situation may turn to anger because they don’t know other ways to express their frustrations.

Anger is a powerful emotion and is experienced for many reasons.  it may be expressed with physical and emotional components like:

• Agitation
• frustration
• indignation
• exasperation,
• hostility
• extreme displeasure.

It can also be displayed physically by:

• Aggression
• destructive behavior toward self, others and property.
• verbal attacks
• violent behavior
• threats towards others and self

Anger is expressed in varying ranges from irritated to enraged.  When anger is expressed correctly, it is the basis for change and the outcome is positive.  When expressed in a dangerous way, the result can vary from hurt feelings and strained relationships to destruction of property and even suicide.

You can learn to Control your anger by recognizing the triggers and redirecting those emotions and feelings to more positive outlets.

Under every angry outburst or feeling is an unmet need.  What do you need to make you feel safe and respected?  Can you ask for that instead of blowing up about something that really is just “the straw that broke the camel’s back?”

Good luck, I am pulling for you.

Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke,family relationship coach and author

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