Archive for the ‘Books’ Category

Loss of a Pet – Burial or Cremation

Tuesday, September 8th, 2009

Hello from beautiful Montana:

The loss of a beloved pet and best friend is devastating. In interviewing hundreds of pet owners and sharing their stories, it is plain to see that the loss of a pet may trigger many other emotions about relationships, both animal and human.

The final days of your pet’s life may be the most difficult period of your relationship, and yet it can also be a rewarding and spirit filled time together.  The period  after the death can be very hard as you make the decision for burial or cremation of your pet.

Cremation of Animals

Most veterinarians have access to a crematorium, where the earthly body is handled with respect and burned. If you choose cremation, the casket or urn containing the ashes will be returned to you. Many people are having jewelry made out of the “cremains” of their pet.

Burial of Your Pet

It is not unusual for families and individuals to choose to bury their pet somewhere that holds significance for them.  You may need to check local ordinances, but most areas will allow you to bury a pet on land that you own.  If you do not have a suitable area for this, you may decide to purchase a burial plot at the pet cemetery.

Prices of a pet burial plot will vary, depending on size of plot, if a casket is used or a service is provided.  Many of the pet cemeteries that friends have used included the cost of a small granite marker in the price of the burial. Some have a space for a picture of the pet.

Memorial To Your Best Friend and Pet

There are many ways to memorialize in a physical manner. Of course, your memories  will always be filled with thoughts of your time together.

You can also plant a tree, donate food  or time to the local  animal shelter, have a portrait painted, write a poem, song or story about your time together.

It is your decision  when your pet dies; burial or cremation. Either way, you will always remember and be grateful for the life lessons you learned from your pet.  Owning and loving animals make us better people.

You are invited to go to http://www.deathofmypet.com the site of our latest book to share stories, photos and memorials of those who have lost a pet.  You will be glad you did.

With love,

Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and keynote speaker

Books Can Be Best Friends

Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

Hello from beautiful Montana:

I love this quote from Elizabeth Barrett Browning–”No man can be called friendless when he has God and the companionship of good books.”
Books do offer us information, comfort, enjoyment and friendship
There is nothing better than a book you become so involved with that the characters seem real to you.  A book you can’t put down. A book that changes your life. A book that you want to share with others. A book that you feel was written just for you.
As I have worked on the book “I Lost My Best Friend Today – Healing From the Loss of a Beloved Pet” I have found many poems, personal essays, articles and other readings that have resonated with me. They came just when I needed them most.
The other day I found Mem Fox’s memoir in the free box at the library. I was ecstatic. The title of “Dear Mem Fox, I Have Read All Your Books Even The Pathetic Ones” pretty much gives you a hint of the contents.  In this wonderful book written by the internationally acclaimed creator of “Possum Magic”, “Koala Lou”, and of course our families favorite childrens (and adults) read aloud book; “Wilfred Gordon McDonald Partridge
The Universe Will Bring You The Right Book
When you need a friend or just the right words, look around and you will find a book that will be just what you need.
When going through a period of grief and loss, I found just the right words. Perhaps it will resonate with you.

Visit http://www.DoNotWeep.com This is a wonderful collection of literature dealing with loss and death. If you choose to order it, you will be glad you did. I certainly was.

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Do You Ever Forget Your Loved Ones?

Tuesday, January 13th, 2009

Hello from beautiful Montana:

As I was posting in my main blog http://www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com  I realized that today was the death anniversary of a baby 37 years ago!

Time moves on, people come and go, but our hearts always remember.  She was a stillborn child and her spirit left on Christmas day in Honolulu, Hawaii where we were living at the time.

I felt her spirit leave and made the decision to carry the body for another 2 and half weeks until birth, rather than have a Cesarean operation. it was a very spiritually intensive time as well as pain filled.

Triggers to our memories

Sometimes it is a smell, event, person, food or mood that will trigger memories that bring everything rushing back to the middle of our thoughts and feelings.

It is okay and good to remember and rejoice that you had the opportunity to learn from your loved one, even if just for a short while.

Pet Loss book coming soon

Many of you may remember when I asked for stories of pets that had died.  Well, the book is being edited as we speak.  What a treasure it will be.  I will keep you posted.

One of the quotes I used in compiling the book of stories of those who are trying to deal with death of a pet  is:

"….he will be our friend for always and always and always."
by Rudyard Kipling-

Thank you for being my friend for always and always and always.

In Gratitude,

Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship coach and author

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